Thought no. yxrt

I've heard of this phenomena called "Tough Love".

Its where you're intentionally mean to the people you love to

(i)toughen them up or

(ii)to make them angry at you

so that

(a)they strive to better themselves

(b)pull themselves out of the funk that they are currently in.

But as with all things, this is a heavily laden double edged sword.

The person you practice tough love on should never know that you love them and are doing this for their good until someone else points it out to them.

You have to be able to tolerate this person hating you so that they become stronger.

You sacrifice their love in order for them to gain strength.

Is this logical?

Does it make sense?

Has it worked in your life?

How many people have you been angry at that were actually doing what they did out of love?

Anger in one's heart does help one move past grief as the 5 stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Anger helps one steel ones heart from more pain and pushes people to strive harder to prove someone else's statement wrong.

Anger for too long can lead to suffering and grief later as well as end up pushing people away.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is take some time out of your life.

Reflect on how you've been treated by others. Think about what they did.

How it made you feel.

Then think about how it made them feel. Think about their motives.

Did it help you in the long run? Was it just a small incident? Did it change your life forever?

Is there a lesson in there that you learnt from?

I mean, just take some time out to think. You may be surprised.